compassion

Aug 23, 20222 min read

HUMANS ARE ANIMALS

humans are animals. in the sense that our behaviours are very similar. the animals we saw down in island bush camp were very shy and...

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nicole calder

Jun 12, 20222 min read

SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH

a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...

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nicole calder

May 27, 20222 min read

PASSIVITY IS CONTROLLING OUR LIVES

three years ago i was sitting in a doctor's office being told "it's your acl...again." my brother and i then raced off to the airport as...

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PEOPLE AREN'T AGAINST YOU, THEY'RE FOR THEMSELVES

nicole calder

Nov 8, 20212 min read

PEOPLE AREN'T AGAINST YOU, THEY'RE FOR THEMSELVES

read that again. this is one of the most liberating phrases you will ever read. often in life we tend to do two things - we tend to take...

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nicole calder

Oct 11, 20211 min read

I'M A FRAUD

for the past few months, i've devoted myself to training individuals to support others when they're struggling. but in particular, my...

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nicole calder

Sep 27, 20212 min read

RESPECT BOUNDARIES

i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...

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nicole calder

Sep 19, 20212 min read

FULL CIRCLE MOMENTS

can you ever really understand a situation until you've been through similar? the times in my life where i've endured the most pain have...

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nicole calder

Aug 30, 20212 min read

BEING YOURSELF

have you ever wondered why your relationships or friendships don't seem fulfilling? have you ever felt like you weren't being heard or...

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nicole calder

Aug 11, 20212 min read

ASK BEAUTIFUL QUESTIONS

the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask. often in life, we avoid asking the difficult questions....

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nicole calder

Jul 26, 20212 min read

HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?

is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...

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nicole calder

Jun 20, 20212 min read

SAY SORRY

even if you don't think you're in the wrong. apologising doesn't mean you accept the other person's behaviour, nor does it mean you don't...

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nicole calder

May 31, 20212 min read

DO WHAT YOU WANT

because why would you want to do something you didn't want to do? i suspect for many people there's a significant amount of resistance...

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nicole calder

Feb 17, 20212 min read

HUMBLING TRUTHS OF THE ELDERLY

growing old isn't easy. it's challenging and often confusing. not only is this a difficult process for those experiencing the ageing, but...

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nicole calder

Feb 13, 20212 min read

CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

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nicole calder

Feb 6, 20211 min read

BEFORE YOU START BLAMING...

check yourself. what needs do you have that aren’t being met? what are you upset about? get curious about what you're feeling - why is...

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nicole calder

Jan 28, 20211 min read

BEFORE YOU CALL THEM CRAZY...

try to understand. behind every insecurity is a need that hasn’t been met. a desire that went unfulfilled. and a belief that has become...

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nicole calder

Sep 9, 20202 min read

COMPASSION

through most of my life, people have told me that i think too much. that i analyse too much. that i can be “too much”. but here’s what i...

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nicole calder

May 5, 20202 min read

ARE YOU HELPING OR HURTING?

on my way to work yesterday, i passed a galah that was unable to fly. growing up being a vet’s daughter, i naturally stopped, wrapped it...

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