nicole calder

"people do well when they can do well, not just when they want to do well." i've used this phrase frequently over the years as it's...

we teach others how to treat us by what we reinforce and what we punish. so when someone acts adversely towards you or towards another...

what i'm finding so challenging with the work i'm doing is the delay between the interest and the execution. the silence between...

how many times have you put off an uncomfortable conversation? and how many times have you been relieved once you've actually had that...

read that again. this is one of the most liberating phrases you will ever read. often in life we tend to do two things - we tend to take...

for the past few months, i've devoted myself to training individuals to support others when they're struggling. but in particular, my...

can you ever really understand a situation until you've been through similar? the times in my life where i've endured the most pain have...

"the teacher will present itself when the student is ready." life can be challenging. but challenges serve to help us grow. the more pain...

have you ever wondered why your relationships or friendships don't seem fulfilling? have you ever felt like you weren't being heard or...

the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask. often in life, we avoid asking the difficult questions....

for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...

what's considered a setback and what's considered a sign? when is it called persistence and when is it called stupidity? suffering isn't...

sometimes life can be shit. there's no denying that. but often when we experience undesirable feelings, we try to run from them rather...

because why would you want to do something you didn't want to do? i suspect for many people there's a significant amount of resistance...

well, we do. but that's not the solution. the reality is, we're always going to need more psychologists. just like we're always going to...

yesterday i finally did what i’ve been talking about doing for a while - i ran my first mental health training session for individuals to...

growing old isn't easy. it's challenging and often confusing. not only is this a difficult process for those experiencing the ageing, but...

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

check yourself. what needs do you have that aren’t being met? what are you upset about? get curious about what you're feeling - why is...

if your mind was free to think about anything? often in life we become fixated - on people, on things, on situations that it ends up...