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Jun 2, 20222 min read

INCENTIVE FOR CHANGE

"people do well when they can do well, not just when they want to do well." i've used this phrase frequently over the years as it's...

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WHAT WE DON'T PUNISH, WE INADVERTENTLY REINFORCE

nicole calder

May 24, 20222 min read

WHAT WE DON'T PUNISH, WE INADVERTENTLY REINFORCE

we teach others how to treat us by what we reinforce and what we punish. so when someone acts adversely towards you or towards another...

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nicole calder

Apr 25, 20222 min read

DELAYED GRATIFICATION

what i'm finding so challenging with the work i'm doing is the delay between the interest and the execution. the silence between...

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nicole calder

Apr 14, 20222 min read

WE AVOID WHAT'S UNCOMFORTABLE

how many times have you put off an uncomfortable conversation? and how many times have you been relieved once you've actually had that...

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PEOPLE AREN'T AGAINST YOU, THEY'RE FOR THEMSELVES

nicole calder

Nov 8, 20212 min read

PEOPLE AREN'T AGAINST YOU, THEY'RE FOR THEMSELVES

read that again. this is one of the most liberating phrases you will ever read. often in life we tend to do two things - we tend to take...

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nicole calder

Oct 11, 20211 min read

I'M A FRAUD

for the past few months, i've devoted myself to training individuals to support others when they're struggling. but in particular, my...

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nicole calder

Sep 19, 20212 min read

FULL CIRCLE MOMENTS

can you ever really understand a situation until you've been through similar? the times in my life where i've endured the most pain have...

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nicole calder

Sep 10, 20212 min read

WHAT IS THE UNIVERSE ASKING OF ME?

"the teacher will present itself when the student is ready." life can be challenging. but challenges serve to help us grow. the more pain...

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nicole calder

Aug 30, 20212 min read

BEING YOURSELF

have you ever wondered why your relationships or friendships don't seem fulfilling? have you ever felt like you weren't being heard or...

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nicole calder

Aug 11, 20212 min read

ASK BEAUTIFUL QUESTIONS

the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask. often in life, we avoid asking the difficult questions....

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THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET

nicole calder

Jul 30, 20212 min read

THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET

for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...

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nicole calder

Jul 3, 20212 min read

LETTING GO

what's considered a setback and what's considered a sign? when is it called persistence and when is it called stupidity? suffering isn't...

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nicole calder

Jun 28, 20212 min read

WHAT WE RESISTS, PERSISTS

sometimes life can be shit. there's no denying that. but often when we experience undesirable feelings, we try to run from them rather...

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nicole calder

May 31, 20212 min read

DO WHAT YOU WANT

because why would you want to do something you didn't want to do? i suspect for many people there's a significant amount of resistance...

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nicole calder

Apr 10, 20212 min read

WE DON'T NEED MORE PSYCHOLOGISTS

well, we do. but that's not the solution. the reality is, we're always going to need more psychologists. just like we're always going to...

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nicole calder

Mar 28, 20211 min read

LESS TALKING, MORE DOING

yesterday i finally did what i’ve been talking about doing for a while - i ran my first mental health training session for individuals to...

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nicole calder

Feb 17, 20212 min read

HUMBLING TRUTHS OF THE ELDERLY

growing old isn't easy. it's challenging and often confusing. not only is this a difficult process for those experiencing the ageing, but...

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nicole calder

Feb 13, 20212 min read

CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

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nicole calder

Feb 6, 20211 min read

BEFORE YOU START BLAMING...

check yourself. what needs do you have that aren’t being met? what are you upset about? get curious about what you're feeling - why is...

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nicole calder

Oct 24, 20202 min read

WHAT WOULD YOU THINK ABOUT...

if your mind was free to think about anything? often in life we become fixated - on people, on things, on situations that it ends up...

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