nicole calder

i’ve been in this uncomfortable mental headspace now for months. and i’d be lying if i said i wasn’t struggling. i’ve written extensively...

our culture is centred around 'what' we do rather than 'who' we are. how many times have you been asked 'so, who are you? what kind of...

humans are animals. in the sense that our behaviours are very similar. the animals we saw down in island bush camp were very shy and...

over the years i've had countless friends who seem to experience an existential crisis when they near the age of 30. at the time, which...

humans need structure. we need purpose. without either, we end up meandering through life, searching and seeking but never finding. as i...

"many people are afraid to heal because their entire identity is centred around the trauma they've experienced. they have no idea who...

over the past couple of months, i've really struggled with who i am. i've lost sight of my values. i've become fixated on things that i...

looking through my facebook memories over the past couple of weeks, i've found it interesting to see the development of social media over...

there's a situation in my life that has been gnawing at me for quite some time. and instead of taking the wisdom from my former posts on...

without your work, who would you be? much of our lives are consumed by what we do. we work so we can earn a wage to buy us freedom to...

have you ever wondered why your relationships or friendships don't seem fulfilling? have you ever felt like you weren't being heard or...

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

because why would you want to do something you didn't want to do? i suspect for many people there's a significant amount of resistance...

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

raise your hand if you have insecurities 🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️ confidence is not about not having insecurities. confidence is about being...

after receiving the news about my “fully intact acl” i started questioning, so how many times have i actually torn my acl? twice? thrice?...

On the 9th of June I had surgery on my knee to repair a torn lateral meniscus and to remove my screw from the previous surgery. A few...

What does that even mean? What does it mean to be human? And what does it mean to be a being? What differentiates the two? And why is...

telling someone to “just be yourself” is such a bullshit and unhelpful phrase. often times the reason people aren’t themselves, is...

How? How do you let go? How do you let go of something you still want, but can’t have? This isn’t a trick question, nor is it a post with...