love

Aug 28, 20221 min read

WHAT IS LOVE?

i've been reflecting a little bit on partnerships and what love is / what you want / need from a partner. i think about my own...

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nicole calder

Aug 26, 20222 min read

THE POWER IN MUSIC

there’s a beauty in music that cannot be shared through other forms of media. music is transformative; it takes you back to a moment in...

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nicole calder

Jun 12, 20222 min read

SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH

a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...

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nicole calder

Nov 14, 20212 min read

A FRIEND FOR A LOVER

i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...

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nicole calder

Sep 27, 20212 min read

RESPECT BOUNDARIES

i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...

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nicole calder

Aug 16, 20212 min read

CHEATING

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

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THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET

nicole calder

Jul 30, 20212 min read

THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET

for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...

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nicole calder

Jul 26, 20212 min read

HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?

is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...

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nicole calder

May 28, 20212 min read

THE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVE

love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...

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nicole calder

May 21, 20212 min read

TRY HARDER OR LEAVE?

one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...

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WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?

nicole calder

Apr 27, 20211 min read

WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?

a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...

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nicole calder

Feb 21, 20212 min read

TRUST PATTERNS

a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...

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nicole calder

Feb 13, 20212 min read

CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

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nicole calder

Oct 17, 20202 min read

HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?

we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...

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nicole calder

Oct 13, 20202 min read

BREAK UPS

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

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nicole calder

Sep 13, 20201 min read

LOVE

loving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...

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nicole calder

Sep 2, 20201 min read

THE POWER OF LOVE

love is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...

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nicole calder

Jan 22, 201913 min read

Get raw, get real

These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...

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nicole calder

Sep 17, 20186 min read

From safety to love

“You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...

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nicole calder

Feb 5, 20172 min read

be not yourself

"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...

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