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i’ve been in this uncomfortable mental headspace now for months. and i’d be lying if i said i wasn’t struggling. i’ve written extensively...
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nicole calder
Sep 1, 20222 min read
SO, WHAT DO YOU DO?
our culture is centred around 'what' we do rather than 'who' we are. how many times have you been asked 'so, who are you? what kind of...
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nicole calder
Aug 23, 20222 min read
HUMANS ARE ANIMALS
humans are animals. in the sense that our behaviours are very similar. the animals we saw down in island bush camp were very shy and...
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nicole calder
Jul 24, 20222 min read
THE CURSE OF 30
over the years i've had countless friends who seem to experience an existential crisis when they near the age of 30. at the time, which...
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nicole calder
May 30, 20223 min read
WE ARE NOT THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES
"many people are afraid to heal because their entire identity is centred around the trauma they've experienced. they have no idea who...
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nicole calder
Apr 14, 20222 min read
BE FAKE OR BE TRUE?
there's a situation in my life that has been gnawing at me for quite some time. and instead of taking the wisdom from my former posts on...
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nicole calder
Apr 11, 20222 min read
THE NEED FOR BALANCE
without your work, who would you be? much of our lives are consumed by what we do. we work so we can earn a wage to buy us freedom to...
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nicole calder
Aug 30, 20212 min read
BEING YOURSELF
have you ever wondered why your relationships or friendships don't seem fulfilling? have you ever felt like you weren't being heard or...
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nicole calder
Aug 16, 20212 min read
CHEATING
what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...
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nicole calder
Oct 13, 20202 min read
BREAK UPS
i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...
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nicole calder
Jul 7, 20201 min read
THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES
after receiving the news about my “fully intact acl” i started questioning, so how many times have i actually torn my acl? twice? thrice?...
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nicole calder
Jun 22, 20205 min read
The stories we tell ourselves
On the 9th of June I had surgery on my knee to repair a torn lateral meniscus and to remove my screw from the previous surgery. A few...
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nicole calder
Feb 11, 20201 min read
BE YOURSELF
telling someone to “just be yourself” is such a bullshit and unhelpful phrase. often times the reason people aren’t themselves, is...
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nicole calder
Dec 16, 20194 min read
Letting go
How? How do you let go? How do you let go of something you still want, but can’t have? This isn’t a trick question, nor is it a post with...
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nicole calder
Oct 14, 20195 min read
A work in progress
The only thing that’s constant in life is change. Our state of mind is never guaranteed. That’s why striving for happiness is an...
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nicole calder
Aug 22, 20194 min read
The cost of commitment
We see commitment as being virtuous, but is it really? Do good things really come to those who are committed, loyal, and devoted? Or is...
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nicole calder
Jan 22, 201913 min read
Get raw, get real
These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...
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nicole calder
Feb 22, 20187 min read
Not enough
These two words have pervasively infiltrated my life in the past week or so. After the realisation I discovered while in America about my...
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nicole calder
Feb 5, 20172 min read
be not yourself
"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...
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nicole calder
Jan 24, 20176 min read
A purposeless life
I’ve been struggling for some time now and it hasn’t been until the past month that I’ve really started to understand the reason why. At...
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