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nicole calder
Jun 12, 20222 min read
SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH
a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...
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nicole calder
Nov 14, 20212 min read
A FRIEND FOR A LOVER
i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...
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nicole calder
Sep 27, 20212 min read
RESPECT BOUNDARIES
i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...
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nicole calder
Aug 16, 20212 min read
CHEATING
what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...
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nicole calder
Jul 26, 20212 min read
HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?
is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...
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nicole calder
May 28, 20212 min read
THE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVE
love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...
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nicole calder
May 21, 20212 min read
TRY HARDER OR LEAVE?
one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...
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nicole calder
May 8, 20211 min read
COMMUNICATION ISN'T THE KEY
comprehension is. our society focuses heavily on individuals being responsible for the situations they are in, yet they fail to consider...
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nicole calder
Apr 27, 20211 min read
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?
a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...
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nicole calder
Feb 21, 20212 min read
TRUST PATTERNS
a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...
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nicole calder
Feb 13, 20212 min read
CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR
i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...
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nicole calder
Oct 17, 20202 min read
HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?
we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...
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nicole calder
Oct 13, 20202 min read
BREAK UPS
i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...
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nicole calder
Apr 26, 20206 min read
Coaching philosophy 2.0
What is my coaching philosophy all about? The same thing that my life is all about: people. Specifically though, establishing connections...
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nicole calder
Mar 23, 20204 min read
Covid-19
What a time to be alive. We’re in the middle of something that has the potential to be a turning point in history. This is the first...
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nicole calder
Jan 22, 201913 min read
Get raw, get real
These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...
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nicole calder
May 28, 20188 min read
Who do you want to become?
Sometimes it takes meeting someone to help you realise all the places in which you are stuck. At least that’s what happened with me....
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nicole calder
Aug 28, 20176 min read
Worlds Apart
Surprisingly, despite me having just moved back to Australia, this post does not pertain to distance, but to time and experience. Since...
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nicole calder
May 22, 201712 min read
What do you not want?
How often have you been asked this seemingly simple question of, what do you want? Whether that’s been in the form of a profession, a...
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nicole calder
Feb 5, 20172 min read
be not yourself
"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...
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